Baby Steps are good. Baby steps are fine. Baby steps are necessary. This is what I have to keep reminding myself whenever I feel like I’m not moving fast enough or efficient enough. At some point (I don’t think I was always like this) I came to believe that I have to have everything figured out, ready to be executed perfectly, before I can share my creation/service/performance with anyone. Obviously this is an aspect of my perfectionism, an aspect that I am actively trying to overcome.
I keep reminding myself that it’s okay to stumble, I don’t have to take off at a full sprint. In fact, it’s not only okay, it’s preferable. You’ve gotta walk before you can run, right? Because there’s always going to be a learning curve, no matter how much research and rehearsal, and it’s easier to maneuver around unexpected obstacles at a slower pace; build knowledge of the terrain as you build your muscles. Baby steps are good.
So, why all the talk about baby steps? Well, my blog is one year old today, it’s a toddler… and I’m a little disappointed that I didn’t post every single week for the past year, I’m also still tweaking the design of the site and I haven’t set up any affiliate marketing yet (because of the first two points,) so I feel like I should be further along, moving faster and more efficiently. Then I remind myself: You’re new to blogging, doing it in your spare time, you’re basically beating yourself up over learning to walk. Would you berate a toddler for plopping onto their butt? No. Of course not! You would soothe them and encourage them to get back up and try again.
I’m going to veer off of the baby analogy for a moment because I’m also reminded of myself just a little over a year ago… when I was recovering from a broken pelvis, I had to be patient with myself as I went from barely being able to move around with a walker … to moving a little quicker with a cane … to finally being able to walk unassisted again and even run if I wanted to. Granted, I learned to walk much faster than a toddler because my body already knew what to do once the muscles were ready to cooperate but, that almost made it more difficult in a way. It was frustrating having to move at a snail’s pace when I was so used to being able to move quickly. That recovery period was definitely a lesson in patience and asking for help. (Have I mentioned yet that I have trouble asking for help? I’m working on that too…)
So, as I celebrate the 1 year anniversary of my blog, I’ve decided that rather than beating myself up for what I have yet to accomplish, I’ll be gentle with myself and encouraging like I would be to a toddler: Look at how far you’ve come… you’ve kept this up for a year, learned a lot about WordPress design, plug-ins and SEO… yes, there’s more to learn and you can write more frequently, just think how much more there will be to celebrate in another year… you might even be running!
P.S. – Now it’s your turn to share in the comments below… have you had to take baby steps recently in your life? Was it easy and natural for you or, did your ego struggle with the slow pace? Have you learned any tools, like meditation, that have helped you to surrender to the process? I think it helps to learn from each other’s experiences, I’d love to hear your story!